A Real Woman:

• Appreciates God's design of men and women, likes being a girl, behaves like a lady, knows that she is special and cherishes her femininity.
• Believes in God and has high moral standards. She is prayerful, strong and wants to do God's will.
• Recognizes goodness, delights in truth and beauty. She respects herself and other people, stands up for what is right! She gives compliments and praise, is concerned about others, and knows how to listen and be a friend.
• Is unselfish, thoughtful, and kind. She is honest, faithful, trustworthy, patient, sincere and forgiving.
• Is modest, pure and chaste. She is compassionate, caring, giving, understanding, humble, and secure.
• Understands chastity, values her sexuality, appreciates her fertility, controls her passions and desires, knows her body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and never uses people.
• Loves babies and nurtures her family. She is the heart of her home, finds strength in her husband, understands sacrificial love and is happy and content.
• Knows, loves and serves God and strives to accomplish His plan for her life.

Choosing the right guy is really about knowing yourself. Being firm in what you believe will help you to realize what is important to look for in a boyfriend. For example, if you are a strong Christian it would be good for you to date a guy who shares the same Christian beliefs. You want a guy who is going to build you up (affirm you) and not tear you down (criticize you). A boyfriend should bring out the best in you and make you happy. Dating shouldn't be burdensome or a chore. The purpose of dating should be to get to know the other person more so that you can determine if you are compatible and meant to see one another exclusively.

Finding true love in today's world might seem like an impossible task, but when you are living a chaste life, it is a heck of a lot easier to distinguish true love from lust. Just think, if you are committed to saving all intimates acts for marriage, then you will know a guy is interested in you for all of you, not just your body! You will know that you have a real relationship and friendship, which is the basis for true love. Chastity decreases your chances of using the other person. Keeping your relationships pure protects you from being used, and it allows you to develop a real friendship. Also, once committed to chastity, you have true freedom to get to know yourself, your dreams and your goals. You won't be clouded by all of the stress of a sexual relationship. You have a chance to fall in love for all of the right reasons and have romance without regret!

Many young people in sexual relationships think they love each other, but they are actually confusing love with lust. Lust is the opposite. It is instant gratification without thinking about the other person. Lust is taking from the other person without considering what is in their best interest. Love desires the good of another person. That means you want the best for them. If you really love your boyfriend, you don't want to take away his virginity, which is meant for his wife. And if your boyfriend truly loves you, he won't risk getting you pregnant or giving you an STD, because that is not what's best for you. Don't settle for lust; hold out for true love.

If you've made the commitment to practice chastity, you need to be careful about the situations you put yourself in with your date. It is important to establish boundaries in your relationships before you find yourself in a difficult situation. So if you and your date are alone late at night and are caught up in the moment, it's much easier to say no if you've already established what is appropriate and what isn't. If you wait until that time to decide what's ok and what isn't, you'll probably end up lowering your standards. Communicate with your date ahead of time and you'll both be happier at the end of the night, knowing the intentions of the other person.

Wrong question! The question that you should be asking is: "How far can I go to respect and honor my date, leading him to purity?" Girls, you determine how far you will go. You have control over your body. Most guys think it is the girl's job to draw the boundary lines. Their attitude is "I will go as far as she lets me." That is wrong! But unfortunately, that is the world in which we live today.

So where do you draw the line? For starters, know that the line begins in your mind. In regards to physical lines, an easy guideline to remember is, "Don't touch what you don't have and don't allow him to either!" Guys are stimulated differently than girls. Open mouth kissing will lead a guy to become sexually aroused but a girl will simply feel more affection towards him. Knowing how far to go means understanding that guys have a higher sex drive and girls have a higher love drive. It also means knowing that using drugs and alcohol will impact sexual behavior because they deepen the conscience and heighten the passions. Setting boundaries and "no trespassing zones" are essential to staying pure while dating.

Planning ahead can make for a great date. Think of something that is low pressure! Going to a baseball game, out for ice cream, or doing something active like rock climbing is fun. An intimate first date with someone can make for an awkward situation. It's fun to go on group dates too. That way both of you can see how you are with your friends, which says a lot about a person. Chances are you'll be more comfortable to be yourself with your friends around as opposed to going out just the two of you.

10 Great Dating Ideas

• Group date
• Have a bonfire with friends
• Play board games
• Go bowling
• Attend a sporting event
• Go rollerblading
• Play paintball or laser tag
• Serve dinner at a homeless shelter
• Go to an arcade
• Spend time with your families

Girls, next time you do your final check in the mirror...check this out! Dressing modestly is the frontline to chastity. It is a crucial element in practicing chastity! Your clothes say a lot about you. In fact, often times you're judged by the way you dress before a word even comes out of your mouth. That's why it's so important to think about the message you want to send people when choosing your wardrobe.

Dressing provocatively might give guys the impression that you think your body is the only great part about you. It also will lead guys to think that you are available in a sexual way. Think about it! As you already know, men and women are different. What you may not know is that men are visually stimulated, whereas women are emotionally stimulated. If a guy sees a girl with body parts hanging out, it could lead him to desire her in a sexual way.

Women want men to respect them, and rightly so, but women must also respect men. It isn't fair to say one thing to a guy with your verbal language and then another with your body or clothes language. If you make a commitment to living chastity, wearing skimpy, tight or revealing clothes will make it hard for you to attract the right kind of guys to date.

When people hear the word modest, they usually think of big baggy clothes that are unattractive. This is not the case! Modest clothes can, in fact, be in style! When looking for guidelines in dressing modestly, remember to cover...

The Four B's

• breast
• bottom
• back
• belly

Pure Fashion is a program where teen girls will be trained as models and promoters of clothing that is "pretty but not provocative, trendy but still tasteful."

Other modesty links

• Diviine ModesTee
• Eternity Store
• The Rebelution
• Modesty Zone

Embrace being single! It is the perfect time to form great friendships with both guys and girls. And the basis for a good relationship with someone is friendship. If you're in a committed relationship, it can be hard to maintain your other friendships. Being single gives you time to figure out who you are and what you stand for so that you'll know what you want in a boyfriend. Take this time to form other interests and hobbies. Be secure in who you are so that you won't change who you are to impress someone.

Top 10 Reasons to Wait for the Honeymoon

• Romance w/out Regret
• Time to Get to Know Yourself
• Clarity in Making the Right Decision
• Protecting your Heart
• Healthy Life
• Proving Faithfulness before Marriage
• A True Bond with your Spouse
• Falling in Love for the Right Reasons
• True Freedom
• The Perfect Wedding Gift: Yourself!

Do girls struggle with masturbation?

Masturbation is a temptation for both guys and girls. It harms our perception of our bodies and the purpose of our sexuality. It also harms our relationships with the guys in our lives- even our future husbands. Many girls fall into masturbation, and some girls even become addicted to it. This is fueled by the image our culture has of women: that our bodies are meant for instant sexual gratification. In reality, however, our bodies are meant for love through sexual self-control and purity.

If I'm struggling with masturbation what should I do?

Though it may be fueled by our culture, masturbation is essentially a selfish act. To combat it, try to remember to be generous and charitable toward others. This will help stop the selfish attitude. Smile at others. Stop gossiping. Stay away from romance novels. Throw out popular girl magazines and replace them with magazines that will build you up such as "True Girl". Dress in a modest fashion. These habits will help you to see yourself as a person to be loved, not a sexual object to be filled with selfish acts or sexual attention. Remaining pure in your thoughts and words will help you remain pure in your actions!

How does pornography harm women?

Pornographic images are primarily a temptation for the guys, but they harm girls as well. When we see other women-our sisters-portrayed as sexual objects, we see ourselves as sexual objects as well. We girls deserve better than that! Challenge young men you know not to look at such images. Ask your parents to keep the computer in the family room and away from secluded locations. Above all, know that our bodies are beautiful and deserve the utmost respect from everyone!

"I've already had sex. It's just too late for me." Says who? Time for a reality check. Life is about choices. Good choices and bad choices. But life is also about new beginnings. Chastity is not about your past...it is about your future!!

• What is it? A renewed virgin is any person who has engaged in pre-marital sexual activity and has decided to stop and commit themselves to saving all sexual behaviors until they are married.
• How do you become a renewed virgin? Anyone can become a renewed virgin at anytime. All this person has to do is make a personal decision to start saving the gift of their sexuality again. Granted, this person cannot regain their original virginity, but they can in a very real sense reclaim what they have given away and start saving again. This person is essentially rewrapping the gift of their body for their future spouse. Their renewed virginity will be a special gift that they can give on their wedding night.
• Virginity vs. Renewed Virginity - Mother Teresa said that the best gift you can give your spouse on your wedding night is the gift of your virginity. It is more precious than jewels. So, perfect virginity is the supreme gift that a spouse can give. While giving the gift of renewed virginity is not the same as one's original virginity, it is still the best gift that a spouse can give. Renewed virgins have a tremendous respect for virginity because they took it for granted and abused their gift. By reclaiming their virginity, they acknowledge their failure to protect and preserve what is most precious, and they lovingly choose to embrace a lifestyle that will safeguard their renewed physical and spiritual state.
• A few more thoughts on renewed virginity - Becoming a renewed virgin is a spiritual experience. Always remember, the worth of a person is not determined by what they do with their body. And for all those who have had their virginity taken from them either through rape or incest, it needs to be said that they are still virgins. Someone cannot take from a person what they are not willing to give. So for the victims of rape or incest, please know that you are still a virgin!